Jupiter ADDRESSES SHANS STATEMENT AND HER FALSE ACCUSATIONS

JUPITER ADDRESSES SHANS STATEMENT AND HER FALSE ALLEGATIONS

I’m going to address some of the false accusations and narratives being spread as a result of Shan’s public statement. I want to address some of her more unsettling lies first. 

FALSE R*PE ALLEGATION

Shan made a false allegation of rape in her June 2024 statement. Shan has admitted that the accusation was fabricated, calculated, and strategic. There is audio and screenshots of our conversations that disprove her allegation. 

There is audio and messages of confessions and apologies she's made over the years. Shan has described this lie as one of the worst things she's ever done to someone.

Shan has also alleged that she was under external pressure from parties related to Ethan Kath, including Edith Frances herself, to fabricate and spread this lie. I’m unable to confirm Shan’s claims that this lie was at Ediths direction, but Shan has provided many separate and consistent descriptions of pressure from her.

All this is discussed in detail with evidence here: https://spiralpatterns.net/shans-r-pe-lie

FALSE UNDERAGE ALLEGATION

Shan and I first began talking in 2022. Shan was 25 at the time. But in her statement released in 2024, Shan (or those helping her) selected and placed old pictures of her looking like a child to misrepresent her age to readers and to make people think I knew her or engaged with her as a teenager. She also included images from when she was very sick and in the hospital. All these were taken from long before I knew her. These images were chosen because they were disturbing. They look nothing like the person I knew. The photos were positioned next to text messages taken out of context. This was done to spin an unsettling narrative and to mislead others into thinking I was interacting with or referencing the person in those old photos of Shan.

The Shan I knew in 2022 was a full-figured woman of 25 who was covered in tattoos. She was an adult and it was always clear that she was an adult.

Shan also misrepresented her first contact. She reached out to me, not me to her, in an instagram dm in 2018. I didn’t know who she was and I didn’t think much of her dm at the time other than a polite response and a follow-back when I saw that she was a goth singer/songwriter. It wasn't a big deal, there was no further interaction, nothing. And years later when she brought up that I ignored her back then, I said in a text that I was probably dismissive of her because she looked like she was 16. I was being hyperbolic. She was in fact 21 at the time, she had tattoos, and she looked nothing like the manipulative photos used in her statement. 

Shan misrepresented texts from 2022 alongside a photo of her looking like a child. Shan spun the narrative so heavily that people actually think that she was 16 or that I initiated contact thinking she was 16. Shan was 25 the first time I ever reached out to her.

After the breakup Shan also created the twisted narrative that I was infantilizing her because I would sometimes call her “little one”. I started calling her “little” because she would constantly go on about being short. Shan is 5’1” and she sometimes makes her height a big part of her identity when she’s talking about herself. She brings up her stature so often that I started playfully calling her “little” as a joke, and that evolved into “little one”. It was just a relationship nickname I’d use sometimes because of how she’d mention she was vertically challenged. It came from the same typical mindset as calling your partner babe or baby, or any other relationship nickname. It was no big deal, until it suddenly was when she tried to twist it into something weird and creepy after the break up. 

SHAN EDITED TEXTS, FALSE ALLEGATION OF ENCOURAGING DRUG ABUSE

Throughout her smear campaign Shan has misrepresented and manipulated screenshots of conversations between us. Texts have been blatantly edited and rearranged by her to change context and paint false and unsettling narratives.

In an example provided below, Shan heavily edited a text exchange between us to misrepresent both content and context. Shan then publicly shared the edited texts as a way to accuse me of encouraging her drug abuse. The original and unedited screenshot shows that I am trying to guide her towards healthier coping strategies other than drug use. I was acknowledging the drug induced feeling she described in the moment, and I was encouraging her to try to build new tools through meditation and mindfulness to access that clarity without reliance on substances. Shan edited out the parts that didn't fit her narrative before sharing the texts publicly. Screenshots are provided at bottom of this page.

This is just one example of many.

FALSE ALLEGATION OF ENCOURAGING AN EATING DISORDER

Shan has publicly accused me of encouraging starvation and calorie restriction despite the fact that I was consistently encouraging her to eat more and to try to adopt healthier habits.

I’m somewhat autistic, and once in an awkward attempt to convince her to eat after she told me she had been starving herself, I phrased things in a way that I now understand was ignorant and insensitive to her disorder. I meant well, but I now see that my approach was tone deaf. I suggested she try to introduce healthier foods within whatever caloric boundaries she could tolerate as an alternative to starving herself. She had been telling me on calls after our break up that she would sometimes not eat for days at a time. I foolishly repeated caloric boundaries that she had mentioned to me before as a “please do whatever you can to allow yourself to at least eat something” plea. That was very much the wrong approach on my part. I was trying to logically solve a problem I didn’t understand. I made a mistake and I regret my phrasing. But Shan knows I was trying to talk her into eating more, not less. We always ate well when we were together. But again, in her statement Shan misrepresented context and twisted my words to support a distorted narrative.

FALSE NAME CHANGE ALLEGATION

Shan has accused me of changing her name in an effort to control her identity. Shan’s instagram handle was and is Shanisabell. And her real given name is Shaniece Isabell. When we first started talking I recognized the word “Isabell” out of Shanisabell. I called her Isabell assuming that was her name. She thought that was cute and liked that I called her that so I got in the habit of calling her by her middle name. She never asked me to call her Shan until much later when she created this narrative long after the breakup. In fact, prior to the statement, at times when I called her Shan, she would tell me not to and that she preferred I call her Isabell. She has said she felt like it was a nice and special thing between us.

A SUMMARY 

Shan has made so many false accusations and misleading claims that I can’t realistically address them all here. But I hope I’ve shed light on some things and cleared up enough misinformation to show her pattern of dishonesty. This is a pattern that extends throughout her entire statement and into the resulting smear campaign.

Shan publicly lied about rape. Shan also mislead people into thinking I reached out to her as a teenager even though she was actually 25 at the time. These narratives (and many others of hers) still persist and Shan has not tried to correct them despite their being verifiably untrue. I’ve come to the conclusion that Shan has taken this whole thing so far that she is no longer willing to publicly tell the truth. Shan apologizes and admits the truth privately then turns around and encourages and perpetuates the lies publicly.

I have countless texts, emails and voice messages of Shan talking freely about what really happened between us, many of them are followed by her apologizing for lying about me publicly. She has many times acknowledged her cruel and abusive behaviors. Shan has described her actions as a result of her unhealthy responses to a relationship ending. She has confessed that she can have very extreme reactions when she “loses love” or feels abandoned. 

I also have endless audio and text messages of Shan being verbally abusive towards me. It was always completely unprovoked and sometimes while I had been no contact and was unresponsive for weeks or even months at a time. This baffled me. Shan would say such unbelievably cruel and unsettling things about me and then would have meltdowns at me when I went no contact and didn't respond to that abuse. 

She'd often write me hundreds of text messages a week when I wasn't responding.  

Shan would often demand that I respond, and then she would issue threats of escalating her public attacks if and when I did not answer her. Shan sometimes even issued threats of physical violence. Over the years she has sent thousands upon thousands of consecutive, unwanted and unanswered messages harassing me. Shan would sometimes promptly delete her messages minutes after sending them, leaving me with hundreds of “unsent message” notifications. This is all very well documented. 

The reality of this entire situation is very very different from what has been presented publicly by Shan, by her helpers, and throughout their smear campaign.

I also have screenshots showing that Shan tried reaching out to Ethan Kath, who she fully knew has many allegations against him of assaulting teenage girls, including my friend Alice Glass. Shan has also shared that she was in extensive contact with Edith Frances, who works for Ethan, and Shan has alleged that they planned and executed this smear campaign together. Shan has alleged that Edith was not only helping her, but pressuring her. Shan has been switching sides, and a lot of it seems to be based around which side is giving her more consistent attention and validation. In the moments when Shan expressed remorse and insisted she was going to come forward with the truth, I sometimes caved and engaged with her. During those times Shan would sometimes volunteer evidence supporting her claims of Edith’s involvement. Some of that has been presented here.

Shan has given confessions, apologies, and she’s promised more times than I can count that she would clear up all the devastating lies she’s told about me, but she always stops short of any public accountability and eventually returns to the public attacks and the private harassment and abuse.

So why did I keep letting this happen to myself? Why would I ever engage with someone who’s said such horrible things about me? Why would I let myself be played in Shan's back and forth games? Maybe it's because there was a time when I genuinely very deeply loved her and a part of that never fully went away. I believed there was so much good in her that I ignored all the warnings that told me otherwise. I really wanted to believe in something good. And when she kept betraying me I still wanted to think that there was somehow hope on the other side of this nightmare. 

I was stupid.

I've been falsely accused of a lot of horrible things I didn't do. This was all calculated and orchestrated by some very motivated people, not just Shan. And having to address and somehow correct a situation like this has felt overwhelming, maybe even impossible. 

Shan knows the truth. She has many times expressed her desire to correct things and make everything right again. Time and time again I foolishly believed her. I felt I had to. She had me believing that she was the only one that could undo all the harm she had caused. That she was the poison and the antidote. That was part of her game, and it’s how she's kept herself in my life. I think maybe part of me still wanted her there too. I wanted to see the person I once thought I loved. But I understand now that person was probably never really there. 

Not only have Shan’s false allegations against me been used to try to harm my image and career, they have been twisted to try to discredit and invalidate the real experiences of Alice Glass and the many others that have spoken out about Ethan Kath. Shan's actions haven’t ever been about exposing any truths or helping actual victims of abuse. I have many reasons to believe that Shan was not only trying to dismantle my image and career for her own agenda, but that she was also being used as a pawn to try and discredit Alice Glass’ past with Ethan by attempting to make me look just as grotesque and abusive.

Shan if you ever read this, although not everything can be fixed or undone, I still believe it’s never too late to do the right thing.